Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt Men More Than Women?

In recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed.

Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear to be the case and they are often portrayed as having an inability to show emotions by women and the media. Men are often stoic and the emotions that they do express are often limited to a few emotions, such as: anger and frustration.

So what these studies have done is created awareness around the fact that although men don’t always show their emotions, it doesn’t mean that they don’t have them. And the reasons they don’t show them is partly due to the pressures that men face and what it generally means to be a man.

Roles

Times are changing and while a man has been seen as the provider for so long, this is a role that they are not always expected to play in today’s world. For when they played this role, they had to be seen as strong and unbreakable; as being immune to pain and to give of the impression that nothing ever affected them.

And as a man was expected to be this way, a woman had to play the role of being passive and weak. But, women have gradually been realising their power and the need for a provider is no longer as important as it used to be; simply because the chances are often there for women to provide for themselves.

Change

But while changes have been taking place, in regards to what it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman, the pressure to conform to the old roles is still there for people. For if ones identity is based on playing a certain role and this causes them to feel empowered for instance, there is naturally going to be resistance when it comes to change.

Even if these roles are dysfunctional and unhealthy, it doesn’t mean that one is simply going to let them go; especially if what they will have to let go of is seen being less than what they will end up with.

Labelled

And if a man was to show his emotions and not just the ones that are seen as acceptable, but their full range of emotions, there is going to be the chance that he will be labelled. This label is unlikely to be one that causes him to feel empowered.

What it could do is cause him to feel emasculated and that he will no longer be accepted or respected by others. And this will be seen as something that that could isolate him from other men and women.

Socially Acceptable

So it could be said that until men are seen as having emotions and that it’s acceptable for them to have them, there are going to be a lot of men who will continue suffer in silence. Just as there are women who feel the pressure to be passive and that they have to deny their personal power.

Acceptable

What is acceptable is for women to show their emotions and for men to repress them. This is generally what is classed as normal and yet just because something is normal, it doesn’t mean it is healthy.

And as a result of this, it is only natural that some women will handle breaks up differently to how some men do. Women can feel as though it’s okay for them to embrace their emotions, whereas men can come to the conclusion that they have to deny them and to pretend they don’t exist.

Consequences

So when one person feels comfortable with something, they are going to behave differently to someone who doesn’t feel the same. Women, through feeling comfortable with their emotions, usually have friends and family who they can open up to. Through them embracing their emotions, it can lead to their feelings being released instead of trapped in their body.

And as they can do this, they don’t have the same need to deny how they feel and to channel their feelings into something destructive. To see a woman upset is generally not going to have the same affect on people as it would if a man was upset.

Alternatively

As men don’t always feel comfortable with having emotions, there is less chance that they will have friends who they can open up to and they might not even reveal how they feel to their family. And as a man doesn’t embrace them, they can end up being trapped in their body.

So when they are not faced and the support is not there, their emotions can end up being repressed and channelled into things that are destructive. These could lead them to taking drugs, drinking alcohol or fighting, as a way to numb their pain.

Emotional Build Up

And if a woman has always felt comfortable with expressing her emotions, then she is unlikely to have an emotional build up. So when a relationships ends, there won’t be any emotional pain from the past to increase her present pain.

However, when it comes to a man who has repressed his emotions for most of his life; their present pain could end up being intensified through having repressed emotions triggered. Emotional pain from the break up and from many years of repression, could end up being overwhelming.

Generalisations

To say that all women are comfortable with their emotions and all men are not would be inaccurate. And yet women are expected to be in touch with how they feel and men are not.

Men not only have the right to express how they feel, they also need to. If a man wants to be emotionally healthy, then it is imperative that they change how they view their emotions and how they deal with them.

Awareness

This is why the assistance of a therapist, healer a coach can be so important. Through another’s assistance, one can gradually form a different relationship with their emotions. If a man is suffering emotionally, reaching out for support is the healthiest thing to do.

Anxiety: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Anxiety?

While anxiety is just one of many emotions that one can experience throughout their life and without too many problems arising, it can also be something that ends up being completely out of control. It is then not just another emotion that one can experience; it is something that can end up defining ones whole life.

Fear for example, is something that can help or hinder one’s life. If fear was removed from someone and they didn’t have the ability to feel it, it would be dangerous. They would end up doing things that are far from safe and it probably wouldn’t be long until their life would come to an end.

When fear is in its rightful place and not out of control, it will allow one to survive. To instinctively know if something is safe or not is vital for ones survival and not something that should be resisted.

And yet if one was in a constant state of fear, their life is not going to be too pleasant either. To be in this position could cause one to be paralysed with fear and their whole life would then come to a standstill. Life would not be something that one embraces and therefore enjoys; it would be something they do their best to avoid.

Out Of Control

So emotions are not negative per se, but they can end up limiting ones quality of life, if they end up being out of control. If one is being controlled by their emotions and not experiencing any kind of self control, then there will be problems.

For one to be in a place of constant happiness and joy is not likely to be seen as ‘negative’ at first glance. However, to be this way all the time could cause one to overlook parts of their life and to even deny certain problems that arise in their life.

Today’s Problems

This would not be healthy and yet there are probably more people in the world today that are stuck when it comes to seeing life in a ‘negative’ way, than people who are stuck when it comes to seeing life in a ‘positive’ way.

And this is surely why fear and anxiety is something that is high on the list of what are described as being mental and emotional problems. And not people who suffer from being overly happy or joyful for instance.

Different Areas

Anxiety is something that one can experience more or less all of the time or it can be something that only appears in certain situations. And even when there is nothing going on externally and one is an environment that is reasonably safe for instance, it can still appear.

So this means that while there may be an external reason for its appearance, it can also appear without anyone being around and as a result of what is going on in their mind and body.

And while anxiety can be something one experiences most of the time, it can also appear: just before one has an exam, in social situations, when it comes to talking to the opposite sex and around authority figures.

Anxiety

When anxiety is experienced, one is going to find that their breathing rate increases. Panic to one degree or another will appear, as will the feeling of being overwhelmed. This is not an experience where one is going to feel a sense of control or personal power.

One’s mind is going to create all kinds of scenarios, as well as different thoughts. But these thoughts could end up being crowded out by how one feels. So the whole thing could end up being more of an emotional experience than a mental one.

One Approach

Thoughts are often said to create how one feels and based on this outlook, it would then be important for one to change how they think. Through doing this, they would be able to either lower their anxiety or stop it from appearing altogether.

And for some people this will work and that will be the end of it. But what this doesn’t look at is what is going on at a deeper level. Because even though so much attention has been placed on our thoughts when it comes to our level of mental and emotional health, inherently, we are emotional beings.

Survival

How we feel can also define how we think and out thoughts are not always in control. Anxiety is similar to anger, in that, it is there to warn someone that their survival is under threat or that it could be.

So when one is in an environment where this is the case, anxiety is doing what it needs to do and that is to keep one alive. However, when ones survival is not under threat and they still feel anxious, it is clear that something else is going on.

Trapped Emotions

The body can carry trapped emotions and this can be due to one experiencing some kind of trauma. And as the trauma was never processed, it has stayed in their body.

This could have been in their adult life or through what happened during their childhood years. It doesn’t have to be something that was extremely traumatising, as it could relate to something that was fairly mild and yet gradually wore one down.

So time has passed and their mind might have even forgotten about what happened, but their body remembers and still carries the emotional pain and therefore continues to experience life in the same way. And these trapped emotions will define how one interprets their reality.

Going Deeper

Under the anxiety could be the feeling of being powerless, that one has no control and even that they are going to die, amongst others; with these feelings being held just above their stomach. For if one didn’t feel this way and felt a sense of power, there is unlikely to be the need to feel so anxious.

And these feelings can seem completely out of place based on ones current environment. But if one was to see get in touch with what happened to them in their past, these feelings could be normal and expected.

Awareness

So as these trapped emotions are released from their body, their anxiety levels are likely to change. And this can be done with the assistance of a therapist or a healer who will allow one to get in touch with their emotions and gradually release them.

Oscars 2014 Prettiest Red Carpet Dresses

One of the most exciting parts of The Oscars (and any award show, really) is seeing what the celebrities are going to bring to the table (or carpet). This year, at the 86th Academy Awards at the Hollywood & Highland Center in Hollywood, California, that took place yesterday, March 2, fashion critics and fans were overall pleased with the fashion that hit the red carpet.

While there were some celebrities that made us think “What were you thinking?” others were so stunning that we couldn’t help but put our televisions on pause and stare at them.

Celebs like “12 Years a Slave” star Lupita Nyong’o, “American Hustle” star Jennifer Lawrence and “Gravity” star Sandra Bullock awed audiences with their gorgeous gowns on the Oscars Red Carpet.

Luckily for some of the stars and best-dressed of the Red Carpet, like Blanchett, Bullock and Nyong’o, they were able to show off their flawless dresses when accepted awards for some Academy Awards. All 86th Academy Award winners are:

  • Best Picture – 12 Years a Slave
  • Best Actor in a Leading Role – Matthew McConaughey (Dallas Buyers Club)
  • Best Actress in a Leading Role – Cate Blanchett (Blue Jasmine)
  • Best Actor in a Supporting Role – Jared Leto (Dallas Buyers Club)
  • Best Actress in a Supporting Role – Lupita Nyong’o (12 Years a Slave)
  • Best Animated Feature – Frozen (Chris Buck, Jennifer Lee, Peter Del Vecho)
  • Best Cinematography – Gravity (Emmanuel Lubezki)
  • Best Costume Design – The Great Gatsby (Catherine Martin)
  • Best Directing – Gravity (Alfonso Cuarón)
  • Best Documentary Feature – 20 Feet from Stardom (Morgan Neville, Gil Friesen, Caitrin Rogers)
  • Best Documentary Short – The Lady in Number 6: Music Saved My Life (Malcolm Clarke, Nicholas Reed)
  • Best Film Editing – Gravity (Alfonso Cuarón, Mark Sanger)
  • Best Foreign Language Film – The Great Beauty (Italy)
  • Best Makeup and Hairstyling – Dallas Buyers Club (Adruitha Lee, Robin Mathews)
  • Best Original Score – Gravity (Steven Price)
  • Best Original Song – Let It Go – Frozen
  • Best Production Design – The Great Gatsby (Catherine Martin, Beverley Dunn)
  • Best Animated Short Film – Mr. Hublot (Laurent Witz, Alexandre Espigares)
  • Best Live Action Short Film – Helium (Anders Walter, Kim Magnusson)
  • Best Sound Editing – Gravity (Glenn Freemantle)
  • Best Sound Mixing – Gravity (Skip Lievsay, Niv Adiri, Christopher Benstead, Chris Munro)
  • Best Visual Effects – Gravity (Tim Webber, Chris Lawrence, Dave Shirk, Neil Corbould)
  • Best Adapted Screenplay – 12 Years a Slave (John Ridley)
  • Best Original Screenplay – Her (Spike Jonze)

The show, hosted by the very funny and overall loved Ellen DeGeneres, was claimed to be an overall great show, with very deserving Academy Award winners.

Holiday Villas Rent Italy: The Latest Trends in the Italian Tourism Field

Villa tourism is one of the greatest phenomena of the Italian tourism in the last years. In fact, many tourists coming from many different countries of the world go to Italy and rent a wonderful villa with garden and swimming pool to spend a relaxing and comfortable holiday with all the family or a large group of friends. People come from many nations, such as United States, Canada, Brazil, Japan and Arabic Emirates, but also from many European countries, such as Denmark, Sweden, Norway, Holland, Belgium, England and Ireland as well.

The most appreciated destinations we find Tuscany, Umbria, Lazio and Amalfi Coast, but also Apulia, Sardinia and Sicily, where tourists can find art, culture, good food and clear waters. Italian tour operators specialized in the field of holiday villas rentals in Italy has generated a 78 million Euros turnover. These data come from a recent study carried out on this topic revealing all the details about this new and interesting phenomenon of the villas rental market in Italy. According to this research, we can talk about the boom of “family reunion”, where senior and young people rent a large house to spend a summer holiday all together in Italy. Italian experts say that luxury vacation villas turnover has increased by 3.4% in the last year. In fact, 1.38 million tourists landed in Italy have rented a total of 1.800 villas and 300 luxury apartments in summer 2013. Most of the foreign tourists spend about 10-11 nights in Italy. The top destination is Tuscany (it represents 50% of “villas tourism” market), after that we find Umbria (that represents 14.4%), and Amalfi Coast (10.1%), where art, culture, sun and clear waters blend in a wonderful mixture. The fourth destination is Le Marche region (4.1% of the tourists choose this place for their vacation). After that, we find Northern Italy Lakes (3.6%) and Liguria region (2.9%), especially the area of Le Cinque Terre. After the top destinations, we find some other emerging regions, such as Apulia, where tourists prefer choosing manor farms and ancient farmhouses for rent.

Visitors always wish to rent a villa with garden, swimming pool and Wi-Fi service and direct access to seaside. Average cost for a mid-summer weekly rental (for an apartment with 8-12 beds) is between 3.500 and 5.000 Euros, whilst a luxury villa is between 8.000 and 12.000 Euros.

How To Successfully Manage Your Time

Working on your time management is something you should do if you want to spend your time in the right way. It will take a few tries to get it right, but these tips are going to assist you. Just keep reading and time management is something that you can use to your advantage.

When time is tight, start setting limits on how long it takes you to do things. For example, rather than browsing the Internet when you have to check email, just allow yourself five minutes to read and respond to your messages. Cut out the excess, stop wasting time and keep yourself on schedule.

One great time management idea you should try is to work a day in advance. If you can, take some time to create tomorrow’s schedule before tomorrow begins. A great way to end the work day is by preparing tomorrow’s to-do list. When you have that laid out, you can can work right away in the morning.

Assign a time to any activity or conversation that is important to your goals. Too many things on a to-do list make them hard to complete. You can also use appointment books. Schedule personal appointments and make time blocks for those conversations, actions and thoughts. Schedule their beginnings and endings. Make sure you complete them on schedule.

If you want to become an expert at time management, you have to develop a strategy for dealing with distractions. An extraneous problem can make it hard (or even impossible) for you to complete the work you need to do. Try setting aside a fixed portion of your working day for distractions. As they come up, make a note of them and deal with them only when their time has come.

When you find yourself constantly late and missing deadlines, consider getting a bigger clock and putting it in a place where it stares you down all the time. Studies show that when people can see a clock during the day, they mentally gravitate toward more time-saving efforts! Try this at home and the office to better manage your time.

Time management should now be something you have very little trouble with using in your day to day life. Just make sure you take into account what you’ve read here and you should do just fine. Apply everything that you’ve learned here and take it slow if you want to get this right your first time.

Is Your Data Really ‘Safe’ on the Go?

Most businessmen need to travel around the world and locally, in order for their businesses to expand, grow, and reach target audience and also to increase business contacts. For this purpose, they definitely have to travel around with loads of highly confidential data and company’s vital records which also form the unique selling proposition and maintain an organization’s competitiveness in the market.

Traveling around with this vital information can be really essential most of the times. In today’s globalized and digital scenario, which has introduced various data storage devices including laptops, USB devices and external hard drives, one has to be extremely careful in taking all precautionary measures to protect this information. The information stored in these portable devices is prone to various human and incidental factors. For instance, if a businessman is traveling with his laptop, and he is faced with an earthquake at his destination, this may destroy his laptop containing the highly valuable information worth millions of dollars. But just to keep in mind, these situations occur rarely and thus don’t have much impact, because of their rarity.

However, the greatest and the most common type of threat that is faced by a businessman is data theft. Data theft may occur in various forms and poses the most serious type of danger for business commuters. People who are on the lookout for data theft definitely use various kinds of dodgy and insanely genuine tactics that no doubt boggle the minds of their owners. Another reason for your data loss can be the loss of your data unintentionally, meaning you forget your USB drive at the airport, accidentally dropped it off on to some place you went a week ago or simply forgot to collect it when checking out of your hotel room. The possibilities are endless and there is no end to them.

To genuinely protect your data from such incidents a businessman has to have the best encryption software in order to take various precautionary measures that will ensure comprehensive protection.

  • Never allow anyone to use your personal data storage and portable memory device under any circumstances.
  • A businessman should always travel with the data that is genuinely required for that task. Traveling with loads of excess data that is critical to the company will definitely have increased chances of data theft or accidental memory stick damage.
  • Try out all means to encrypt data that you carry with you. Encryption is essential in today’s circumstances as it encrypts the data into code language that is, in most of the cases, not readable and understandable by unauthorized people.

These techniques can be really beneficial in the long term for data protection as they are really easy to use, adaptable and genuinely applicable.

Win a VIP experience at the Vera Bradley Outlet Sale in Fort Wayne, Indiana

Starting today, Visit Fort Wayne announced a contest offering a coveted VIP experience at the Vera Bradley Outlet Sale, located in Fort Wayne, IN. The contest runs through Monday, March 24 and features a Fort Wayne Girlfriend Getaway and VIP experience at the Vera Bradley Outlet Sale.

Every year the Vera Bradley Outlet stages a gigantic sale where savvy shoppers can save 40-60% off retail prices on Vera Bradley’s great handbags, luggage, and accessories. It is expected that over 60,000 women will be checking out the sale running from April 9-12, 2014.

So what are you waiting for? Grand prize winner receives four VIP tickets to the Vera Bradley Outlet Sale for Friday, April 11. In addition, winners will enter the sale prior to the official door opening and will receive VIP check out as well. Prize package includes a grand cargo bag, grand cosmetic, all-in-one cross body tote, umbrella, and ditty bag. Guests of the winner receive a grand tote, cross body tote, and umbrella. Plus, the lucky winner and her three guests will receive an over night stay at the Courthouse Marriott for April 10.

Emotional Body: How Can Someone Heal Their Emotional Body?

While it is clear that one has a physical body, what might not be as clear is that one also has an emotional body. So much attention has been placed on the mind or what could be called the mental body, that emotions often seen as being insignificant.

And that the only time emotions do appear is when one has certain thoughts. This often creates the impression that emotions are just an effect of how one does or doesn’t think. Based on this outlook, one’s mind is in control and emotions are at the mercy of one’s thoughts.

If one was to go along with this and adhere to the perspective that their thoughts are in control, then it will be vital that one ‘masters’ their mind. And if ones thoughts create their feelings, then what else would someone do.

In order to change something, it is often said that one needs to go to the root of the problem. And with thoughts being seen as the cause, it is only natural that one would place their attention solely on their mind.

A Deeper Look

However, just because something has been around for a while, is believed by a lot of people or is something that ‘experts’ or authority figures stand by, it doesn’t mean that it is the truth. What was seen as being correct at one point in time can be seen as completely inaccurate at another time.

Thoughts can define how one feels; to think about a beach is generally going to make one feel different than if they were to think about their house being destroyed. And while this is true, ones feelings can also play a part in how they think.

Emotional Beings

To hear that humans are emotional beings that think might sound out of place. What might sound more accurate would be to say that we are thinking beings that feel. And as much as one might want to see themselves as always acting through logic or reason, behaviour is generally the result of how we feel.

After this, the mind gets involved and creates some kind of logical reason or justification for how one has behaved. But no matter how what the mind comes up with, emotions were the driving force.

Impact

So not only can our emotional body influence how we think, it can also have an impact on our physical body. And yet through a lack of awareness when it comes to emotions and the effect they have, dis-ease is generally seen as being a consequence of one’s DNA for instance.

But just because one is unaware of something, it doesn’t mean that it is not having an effect on their life. Emotions can be ignored and dismissed when it comes to ones physical health and yet that doesn’t mean that one is immune to their effects.

Emotional Problems

One thing that could make one want to heal their emotional body is due to them suffering from emotional problems. But, even if one doesn’t think that they have emotional problems, they might find that they behave in ways that are dysfunctional and that their mind is out of control.

These two things might appear to have nothing to do with how one feels and yet how one feels can be the cause of what is going on in their mind and how they behave. For example, if one is experiencing emotions that are not too pleasant, one way of dealing with them, in the short term, is to obsessively think about something or to become addicted to doing something.

What the mind is doing is regulating how one feels. And if these feelings were not there one wouldn’t need to become obsessed with ideas or fantasy’s or addicted to people or rituals, simply because their emotional body would be at ease.

Different Areas

Although it can seem as though emotions are only experienced in one part of one’s body or even that their mind is creating these emotions, each emotion that one feels is experienced in a different area of their body.

The chest area is where one can feel: abandoned, rejected, grief, sadness and loss. Above the stomach one can feel: hopeless, powerless, shame, loss of control and death. And further down, in the stomach, is where guilt can be felt and then under that in ones hips, is where fear can be felt.

There are other emotions and other places; these are some of the main areas.

Trapped Emotions

So while one can feel guilt when they have gone against their own values or feel rejected when a relationship ends and then gradually settle down, it is also possible for someone to end up being stuck there.

And to constantly feel guilty, rejected or even ashamed or to feel this way in certain environments is going to cause one to suffer. When one ends up being emotionally stuck, it can be the result of having trapped emotions in their body.

Causes

One of the biggest reasons why someone has trapped emotions in their body is because they have experienced some kind of trauma. As their feelings were not processed, they then stayed in their body. This could relate to: childhood abuse, the loss of a loved one or a car accident.

The Usual Approach

Now, when it comes to dealing with the emotional body and releasing these emotions, to enable one to be emotionally free, a masculine approach is not what is needed. This approach is all about doing and not being.

When one feels down about something, it is common for people to say: stay positive, keep your head up or they should just let go, amongst other things. And while his would work if it related to something physical in nature, emotions are not physical things.

The mind can repress or deny what is too painful to face. But this is unlikely to deal with how one feels, it is simply avoidance. These emotions can then end up being trapped in one’s body and control their whole life.

The Mind

And while the mind can live in a fantasy world and pretend that everything is fine, the body, as well as their relationships, will reveal exactly what is going on for someone. The body doesn’t lie as Alice Miller once said; whereas the mind can be full of lies and illusions.

One problem with today’s world is that we often ignore the body and only listen to what the mind has to say. The truth is then ignored and what is not true becomes the truth and this can include the world at large and our own personal lives.

Awareness

So if the trapped emotions are not dealt with through doing or through force, how are they dealt with? They have to be faced and felt and as this is done, they will gradually be released. This is unlikely to be something that happens overnight and could take a while.

The assistance of a therapist or a healer might be necessary. If one was to face their emotions by themselves, it could be overwhelming.

Author’s Pick: Top 5 best and worst dressed at the 2014 Oscars

The Academy Awards is famously known to be Hollywood’s biggest night. Movie fans around the world set their calendars every year for this special night…but so do fashionistas like myself.

Although I am a huge movie geek, and tune in every year to see the best of the best of actors, actresses, writers, producers, directors, designers, animators etc., I also tune in to see the fashion!

I have been watching the Oscars since before I can remember. Every year, I make Oscar-Sunday my day as I watch everything from the pre-red carpet to the arrivals, the actual ceremony, to the after-parties. I don’t want to rule out the men, as they all look handsome in their designer suits and tuxes, but lets face it – the ladies are the forefront when it comes to the outfits.

Each award season I sit on pins and needles waiting to see what the actresses are wearing. When it comes to other award shows’ fashion, they tend to get away with almost anything, but with the Academy Awards, it’s either a hit or miss. It was tough as there were a lot of best and worst dressed gals this year, but I narrowed my picks down. Not in any particular order (in relation to the photograph above) here are my top 5 best and worst dressed.

BEST DRESSED

Idina Menzel – The ‘Wicked’ star wore a strapless, forest-green Vera Wang gown that was simply stunning. Last night Menzel performed ‘Let it Go’ from Disney’s ‘Frozen’ which won the Oscar for Best Animated Feature.

Amy Adams – The five-time Academy Award nominee arrived at the red carpet wearing a strapless, sapphire blue Gucci dress that was nothing less than elegant. Adams was nominated for Best Actress in a Leading Role for ‘American Hustle’.

Jennifer Lawrence – The ‘Hunger Games’ beauty never disappoints when it comes to fashion on the red carpet. Like last year’s Oscar dress, Lawrence knows how to wow. This year she chose a red, strapless peplum Dior Couture dress that had on-lookers in awe. The Academy Award winner was nominated again, this time for Best Supporting Actress for ‘American Hustle’.

Charlize Theron – She warmed our hearts in 2003 for her performance in ‘Monster’, but she won our hearts at the 2004 Oscars in a gown that outdid everyone’s. The Academy Award winner presented at this year’s show in a sexy, strapless Gucci dress. It was, as I believe, to be the black dress that every woman dreams of having in her closet!

Giuliana Rancic – The Fashion Police diva was on the red carpet hosting for E! hours before the arrivals. She was pre-game to the red carpet as she showed off her Paolo Sebastian dress. The slightly off-the-shoulder, champagne, princess dress was just darling. Even Joan Rivers couldn’t pick a bad thing about that dress.

WORST DRESSED

Elsa Pataky – Chris Hensworth, actor best known for ‘Thor’ and ‘The Avengers’, showed up with his very pregnant wife on his arm. Ok, I give kudos to the ‘Fast Five’ actress for stepping out onto the red carpet when she is ready to pop, but she stepped out in the wrong thing. She wore a teal, Elie Saab gown that covered too little on the sides and showed her baby bump in a very un-flattering manner.

Anne Hathaway – The Academy Award winner usually is a hit or miss when she steps out on the red carpet. We can either plan to see a ‘Princess Diaries’ look or a ‘ I Dreamed a Dream Les Mis’ look. This year, the presenter had a miss wearing a black and gold armor Gucci dress that would’ve been better designed as a shoe than a gown.

Anna Kendrick – The Academy Award nominee, and this year’s presenter, wore a J. Mendel dress that you either loved or hated. This is on my worst dressed so obviously I did not love it. The off-the-shoulder, black gown with the red sheer details at the torso would have looked much better with out the cross-body strap and thick-lining detail at the neck and arms. Better luck next time.

Sally Hawkins – One thing not to do when you are thin, beautiful and nominated for an Academy Award – dress like a nun. The actress who was nominated for Best Supporting Actress for ‘Blue Jasmine’ wore a white and gold fully-covered Valentino dress. Too much skin is a no-no, zero skin is a big no-no.

Kerry Washington – The 2014 Oscars were no stranger to the very-pregnant beauties. The ‘Scandal’ star is usually always a stunner on the red carpet, even more so since she sported her cute baby bump, but this year’s Oscar dress wasn’t a good choice. The presenter wore a Jason Wu, strapless lavender gown that looked like a wrinkled, silk sheet clipped by a diamond pendant. She should have re-worn her 2014 Golden Globes dress.

Well, there you have it! My yay’s and nay’s for this years Oscars Best and Worst Dressed. Who were your favorites? Excited to see what 2015 brings.

Sarah Jessica Parker’s shoe line for Nordstrom to launch tomorrow

If you ever wanted to go shoe shopping with Carrie Bradshaw, your dream is about to come true – Sarah Jesscia Parker’s shoe line for Nordstrom hits the stores tomorrow!

When SJP’s character in famed TV series Sex and the city exclaims “..men I may not know, but shoes, SHOES I KNOW!”, we couldn’t agree more. Now, Sarah Jessica Parker brings her passion and style to her collection and fashionistas across country are waiting with baited breath. The previews of the shoes (and trench coats) look very promising and we sense a ‘sold-out’ situation pretty quickly! All the shoes are crafted in Italy and Spain and the collection boats of feminine, classic silhouettes with vibrant colors and timeless appeal. In March issue of O magazine SJP admitted she wants to give women excellent quality for their money. “I didn’t want to do anything that says , ‘Oh, these shoes are 2014.’ I want my shoes to be a part of your world for a long time to come.”
You can see some of the shoes from SJP’s collection for Nordstrom in the slideshow to confirm her opinion!

The shoes are priced between $200-$500 and will be available in-store and at Nordstrom.com at February 28. There is also a special pop-up store in New York City (372 Broadway) open from February 28 to March 2.